"Scorched earth" refers to a military strategy that involves destroying anything that might be useful to an enemy while advancing or evacuating an area. [Wikipedia]
The first time I heard this term was a legal stalking entanglement with a child and spouse abuser recorded by the court 17 years ago in a divorce court. I didn't really understand the concept at the time, but lawyers always called it the strategy of the opposition.
Domestic violence, divorced, charred earth
My world is attacked one by one. Four years of ruthless complaints threatened to hand over my custody to someone who was not even a legal guardian. However, this of course does not mean that the child's custody cannot be held, and they will be laughed at because of the threat of customs litigation.
Then, the backup beta tape of my entire commercial database mysteriously came out of my office on the 37th floor of a senior security professional building in Chicago. No mystery!
From my three children to my professional business, Scorched earth is the name of strategy... and then my personal safety. When I arrived at the umbrella in my car, I took out a bag of soaked gasoline - kerosene socks. Only one person has the motivation to put it in my car. Guess who?
This is just a small part of the nightmare I have experienced in the Cook's domestic violence divorce law. If you are in a divorce court with a striker, I believe you know this strategy.
Why burnt the earth is a survivor of domestic abuse
Fast-forward for more than a decade... In my work on domestic violence treatment for couples in abusive relationships, I gradually understood the different definitions of the term coking earth.
When they believe that they have lost the ability to interact with their partners in love or war, they will show their desire to focus on the tactics. It's as if they said to themselves: "I will stop you from enjoying the things that bring you happiness, because you deny what I want..."
In some cases, when the abuser seeks virgin revenge, I will see the term of scorched earth. They want to do whatever they can to make sure they have broken or, in some cases, destroyed what their partner likes.
It seems that they persuaded them to do so to destroy the love of their partner's life. My feeling is that they are working hard, because from their standpoint, their partner has destroyed the love in their lives.
If you are dealing with a destructive relationship with a person using a scorched earth strategy to deal with their injuries, pains and losses... seek to establish an anti-survival strategy. Your world has not collapsed; instead, your opposition is only using scorched earth in your battle against you.
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