One of the most common problems I have heard is that there are duplicates of this matter. It is absolutely normal [and very easy to understand] to collect all possible information. However, one thing you are tired of asking, and your cheating spouse is tired of answering. You can start to wonder when you will stop this loop. Usually, you want to stop, but you hate to think of outstanding problems that you are still not sure about.
The wife may say, "Honestly, I think my husband still hides some of his details. They are very destructive. But I still believe that there are things he doesn't want me to know. Tell me that he said: "There is a time Will come - and time will come soon - you need to stop on all issues. I feel that we can't spend a day without me having to bake again. There are some truths in his words. I have problems every day. But I just kept asking because I know he didn't tell me everything.
I don't know any rules or guidelines about this. And I believe you have the right to ask for information. Yes, the husband is very defensive, they will try to call you, because every time you ask questions, they will feel exposed, shy and humiliated.
If he has told you everything, your husband may have a little opinion. I know from experience that after a while, it is really meaningless to ask the same question over and over again. This is a frustrating cycle, just not productive. Therefore, I admit that there is often a point where you have been told basically everything, you are still asking the same question, because you still can't surround your brain around these situations.
However, not fully understanding it does not mean that you are not getting the information you are asking for. Here is a potentially useful example because it is not unfaithful. Bear me because I think it is relevant and will help. Recently, my child suddenly gave up his favorite sport and he invested a lot of time. I have repeatedly asked him to explain his reasoning. Moreover, he told me over and over again that there were too many promises, his performance was painful, and it was no longer so interesting. These are very good reasons. He gave the exact answer I asked. It still bothers me. So, I will stick to it. Does he not like his coach? Doesn't he think he is not good enough? Is there a problem with one of his teams? His answer is always no. This makes us depressed. I still don't fully understand why he resigned - I may never understand it. But I have decided that our relationship is not worth continuing to entangle him. He told me the information. I can't get into his mind and feel the same feeling. So I just need to move on and if he needs me to support him. He looks very satisfied. It is me who is experiencing turmoil, but I know I need to let go.
Ask yourself if you are at the same point. Did he tell you everything, but you still can't understand because you don't act in the same way? If you can see this and know that your husband has answered the questions you asked and you are stirring up with the same old things and causing disastrous results, then it may be time to seriously scale down. Similarly, if this process just makes you feel worse, and you just think and stir up bad emotions, ask yourself if it is worth it.
I know you need all the answers. If you don't think you have them, then it is definitely worth talking about. You might try: "I fully understand that it is not good for us to continue to continue debt for the same old problems. Some things are blocked. Once I have all the information, I intend to move on."
This may be effective. But if not, if you are still stuck, then you may want to consider a short consultation so that the counselor can help you determine if you have all the information. Sometimes this is useful in many ways. Knowing that you have a fixed time and place to resolve outstanding issues, you no longer need to be the only focus of your home.
But I think that when you need to quit asking questions, I don't think this is a magical benchmark, although I think it makes sense to narrow it down when you listen to the same answer over and over again and you don't learn anything new. I think that when we are in a cycle of depression, most of us can feel it.
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