"Love should not be portrayed as blind, but self-love." - Voltaire
The theme of "narcissism" is "narcissism." We have aroused our interest for decades, but social scientists now claim that it has become a "modern epidemic." The term "narcissism" is called "narcissism." Originated more than 2,000 years ago, Ovid wrote "The Legend of Narcissus", telling the story of a beautiful Greek hunter, Narcissus. One day, he saw his reflection in the pool and fell in love with it. He became addicted to his own beauty and could not leave his image before he died. The concept of narcissism was originally introduced by the famous psychoanalyst Dr. Sigmund Freud's paper "On Narcissism". He promoted this new concept through his own "self" work. And its relationship with the outside world. Narcissism can be defined as the pursuit of satisfaction from vanity or self-admiration for one's own attributes. The American Psychiatric Association ' classifies this as "narcissistic personality disorder" and "narcissistic personality disorder". [NPD].
Narcissism lies in a continuum from health to morbidity. Healthy narcissism is part of the normal functioning of human beings. It represents the self-love and self-confidence needed to be based on real achievements and the ability to overcome setbacks. However, when a person is overly focused on himself and seeks complete admiration and attention, narcissism becomes a problem and completely ignores others. feelings. Lack of satisfaction with this demand leads to drug abuse and major depression. Among adolescents, this led to substance dependence disorders [SDD] - they showed significant narcissism and prosocial behavior, suggesting a link between egocentricity and addiction. These include sedatives such as alcohol, hallucinogens and hallucinogens such as marijuana and hallucinogens, stimulants such as cocaine, opium, heroin and morphine, and anti-anxiety drugs like Xanax.
The narcissist unconsciously denies an unrepresented and intolerable self-image through inflammation. They turned them into gleaming figures, surrounded by walls that the heart could not penetrate. "The goal of self-deception is to be free from criticism from the outside world and their own doubts." This is how Elan Golomb described NPD in her book "trapped in the mirror." 39;. Narcissists are not aware of the close relationship with anyone, because they think that other people like the items in the vending machine and use them to meet their own needs, never able to admit that others have their own feelings.
Whether as a personality trait or as a clinical disease, narcissism is full of irony and paradox. Emily Levine said: "I think narcissism is about self-love, until someone tells me that there is a flip aspect... this is self-love for free." It must be remembered that Narcissus cried and found his The image did not return to his love. This shows that intimate contact with the self does not, nor does it come from a cheerful posture, acting with self-satisfaction or obsessing with the ideal brilliance or beautiful fantasy. Health, non-self self-love stems from unconditional acceptance of the self, without having to claim superiority over others. Deep down, narcissists unconsciously know that they are not real projections. In fact, one of their central defenses is to endlessly show others the fears and fears they are unable or unwilling to provide. They criticize others, but they turn a blind eye to themselves - their self-love must be seen as an illusion, a spectacular victory of self-deception. They can only love their wrong, idealized self - a mirage that cannot return to fantasy fantasy. Their flawed self is hidden under their external bluff, still locked and permanently exiled. And, in order to constantly protect themselves from the reality that often contradicts their ambitious assumptions and conceit, they are forced to adopt a large-scale defense strategy with extraordinary rigidity.
Although few of us are indeed diagnosed with NPD, almost all of us have a crime of sharing some narcissism. Therefore, Todd Sorenz said: "The narcissism and self-deception are the survival mechanism. Without this mechanism, many of us may jump off the bridge." For true narcissists, defense is absolutely necessary. To make up for their self-deficit and reduce shame. Without them, they may lead to suicidal depressive symptoms; because narcissists don't really like themselves - the more they boast and devalue others, they are more likely to cover up their deeper, more subtle inferiority complex and lack of love. Their idealized self-image blinds their eyes, and they try to shape themselves into geniuses, special and unique - which in turn makes them conceited and arrogant. According to TS Eliot, "...half of the damage done in this world is due to those who want to feel important. They don't see it, or they just defend it because they are engrossed Endless thinking "This shows the difference between a malicious narcissist and someone who only cares about their behavior that may adversely affect others. This is another way of focusing on their highest self-absorption, which makes them unable to identify with others. feelings.
Kurt Cobain said: "I don't care about your thoughts, unless it's about me." This shows the narcissist's personalization of the outside world without something that is particularly relevant to them. They have no ability to have a real interest in others. Unless the superior claims of the former require them to make sense. Narcissists are also great liars; after all, they always succeed in deceiving themselves. They become particularly painful when they suffer from memory loss when they lose part of their favorite person. In general, a narcissist "swallows people, consumes their output, and casts empty, entwined shells," says Sam Vaknin. Hatred is a supplement to fear, and narcissists like to be worried about people - it gives them an intoxicating feeling of omnipotence. The difference between narcissism and self-love lies in depth. Narcissus does not love oneself, but loves its own image or reflection, with characters, masks. According to others, narcissists see themselves through the eyes of others, changing their lifestyles and behaviors and expressing emotions. admiration. Narcissism is a voluntary blindness, an agreement that does not seem to be superficial. However, Oscar Wilde said: "Love yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance" - this self-love attention also tends to be morbid and narcissistic.
Professor Jean Twenge distinguishes the concept of narcissism from self-esteem. A high self-esteem and a focus on personal achievement, but they also value their relationship and care for others. Conversely, narcissists miss the relationship that values and cares for them because they lack empathy. Professor Twenge, a self-proclaimed narcissist, and Keith Campbell have teamed up to investigate whether recent generations of people are more resistant to narcissism than previous generations. The tool they used to evaluate their subject was "narcissistic personality inventory" ' [NPI], created in 1988. It is the most widely used measure of narcissism in social psychology research, with 40 mandatory selection versions being the most commonly used. I follow Freud and Cochter ' In theory, an individual will be clinically diagnosed as an NPD patient if the following criteria are met:
A. Magnificent self-awareness or uniqueness
B. Focus on the fantasy of unlimited success, strength, talent, beauty or ideal love
C. Exhibitionism
D. Indifference to indifference, indifference or failure to others, inferiority, shame, humiliation or emptiness
E. At least, the following two characteristic distortions occur in relationships:
I. Rights - Expect special favors without mutual responsibility
II. Interpersonal relationship
III. Alternating relationship between the extremes of over- and devaluation
IV. Lack of compassion
F. Easy to humiliate, not guilty
G. Refuse remorse or gratitude
In this regard, you can refer to Hotchkiss from
' Seven fatal narcissism crimes' from
, including shameless, magical thinking, arrogance, jealousy, rights, exploitation, and bad boundaries.
The narcissistic dilemma' When criticized, narcissists show that they are unable to maintain any emotional tendency or acceptability. However, these disturbed people also show the ability to criticize others with abnormal development. Their dilemma is that their defensive capabilities are rigid, they can't relax their vigilance, even among the people closest to them, they can guarantee that they will never get what they need most, unfortunately, they don't pay attention to themselves. To. People have never been born narcissists, but powerful environmental influences have made them so. Neglected and neglected in childhood, or often degraded or condemned by parents, they form unrealistically high standards of behavior. Unable to meet with parents #39; unreasonable, perfectionist expectations, they created an imaginary "ideal self" that can accept the acceptance of parents, even the flattery they warned. The main elements of narcissism are the supply of narcissism, the anger of narcissism and the harm of narcissism, and the abuse of narcissism. Narcissism can be of various types, and the reasons are not yet known. Genetic inheritance...
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