The current atmosphere & dating seems to be spreading the feeling of "I want it - but me?" I walked through a young couple in Paris [I am in Paris now] and saw a lot of couples enjoying the city and the energy of each other - play the "I love you" flirting game, "What will you do? Give me" - they really Very happy. I also walked with friends to think about the people they like this man or the girl, and the possibility of being with this person and being excited about it. It started to wash me - what made us pursue romantic love and affection for one person.
Even though I read and heard a lot about the cynicism of dating, find love for love and marriage or promise - I still see many people pursuing, enjoying and loving romantic love. I am not dating the world online. I saw it on the streets, parks, bars and streets of Paris. Couples and families in my building. Summer vacation in France. And in everyday life - people still hold hands, as if there is something satisfactory to be with someone.
One of the researchers about romantic love is Dr. Helen Fisher, an anthropologist who has studied romantic love in more than 90 cultures around the world, now and in the past. Dr. Fisher's research is based on the body's four hormones, estrogen, serotonin, testosterone and dopamine, which define the hormonal movement and personality traits of love.
I am curious about some of Dr. Fisher's conversations, because she still can't explain why we pursue romantic love beyond the stimulating factors of hormonal impulses. She certainly has drawn the motivating factors. She honestly and sweetly said that some of her research can explain why humans continue to pursue romantic love, fascination and interest for thousands of years, but her research does show that by crossing time And the culture of the world, the obsession with romantic love is unchanged.
On the streets of Paris, I saw young couples laughing and sharing their different views in a world of change and embracing and connecting. I am worried about myself. These lovers are in a historical period. This period is the most varied and human being on earth. Providing loneliness for two people in their quiet refuge - a quiet place where two people can carry out the simplest connection activities, two people devote each other, with hope or joy, the couple provides a world of depth that they can't find . In this respect, they can also feel the instability against lover. Say no, I don't like this, let their lover really respond to a strong need or desire to make their lover happy or maintain their feelings. Then I thought of myself, but humans have already felt and thought that they have been trapped in many historical periods for many times. Paris itself has seen the dark days of many museums and sites testifying.
Are humans eager to secure with a person who no one can truly defend or celebrate their world?
I often wonder if we are eager for the safety of adults, why our mother or father's love is not enough [if they are alive] - why we are looking for romantic love is not the love of a dear family member. Some of us don't like our family, so looking for a romantic love interest is a good way to find someone who likes you and celebrate you - verify you - despite your family.
Entering a couple allows you to feel the anchor of the world and the clear position in the social structure. However, when you are single or free to act, you may be unconsciously seen as a potential threat to the species - because your role in the tribe is not defined or fixed, just as you can steal a couple or provide sex Competing for Egypt's interests undermines the stability of a couple. As a couple, you can be seen as a predictable and more stable "economic unit". However, if you are single, you can represent something that is not known, your agenda, your direction and #39; it is still unclear in the world. What is your reason as a single agent?
The irony is that many people now face singles when they become a couple, because relationships do not last long.
At the end of thousands of years, long-term relationships are equal to life-term relationships. This means that we are using an old method of liquidation to ensure safety. As a couple, we don't know how to go beyond this?
This leaves many of my old friends with a marriage relationship and feels they have to accept - at some point - if they don't have a relationship, they can. For some people, they realized that this was a powerful place for them to arrive: they eventually accepted who they were. They may be single or alone - they are very good and even happy.
However, I still see people of all ages shimmering when they meet someone who lights them up. That piece is still exciting about my work.
Here's why I continue to believe in romantic love as a human being [although political climate, earth's atmosphere or modern dating and its traps]:
Two people together hope The things that make the best of each other satisfy the deep needs of human beings, and make themselves a lovely, given, flawed, and despite flaws, can let others feel the same people, and even create opportunities. The people you love are more about who they are.
And for some people, this is the motivation for accepting you and bringing out a person you can't find yourself - but you doubt, feel, believe and hope that this person will find a way to show the road. Hide yourself.
Have Do not There are many places in our adult life where we play each other's roles.
Another way of romantic love is that this is our unconscious driving force. Our soul needs to discover what is hidden in us. The hope of romantic love provides an opportunity to get in touch with each other.
I am a person, a romantic believer.
However, I don't think that romance will be smooth sailing. Because the best intentions are not to be promoted by some good common sense skills, how to treat human beings can not achieve romantic love.
I am really interested in knowing why You may be a believer or fan of romance.
Let me know your motivation - comment on this blog post. Or email me angela@loveandrelationshipshipcoach.com
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