Mr. K beat his wife and caused serious physical harm.
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Mr. L. defeated his teenage daughter and caused serious bodily harm.
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Mr. M. murdered his wife.
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Mr. N raped a young woman who was dating.
None of these gentlemen are mentally ill, mentally ill or particularly violent. Then why did they commit this shrinking crime?
There may be many reasons for violence against women. In the case of K., L., M and N, these crimes are related to cultural shocks.
Cultural shock is the mental pain experienced by a person in an unfamiliar cultural environment. Often, cultural shocks occur after migration from traditional rural societies to modern urban societies, but may also occur after urbanization, industrialization, and other people no longer recognize the social and ecological changes that he or she has grown. In my research on cultural shocks, I used the term "lost simplicity". The world that one has known in the past is simple, but it becomes unbearable after the change.
In this case, the simple concept includes the following sub-concepts:
Integrity - My culture enables me to handle all the information I need to function smoothly in my social and ecological environment.
Parsimony - My culture doesn't allow me to deal with information that is not related to functionality in my environment
Consistency - My culture does not allow me to handle the information I need to function properly in a self-contradictory manner.
Rationality - My culture allows me to explain and understand what is happening in my environment in a way that I think is reasonable and meaningful.
In the case of cultural shocks, at least some simple features are lost. This can cause significant mental stress. People in cultural shocks tend to simplify the new cultural information they are exposed to make them more acceptable. Simplification typically involves moving one or more of the simple aspects listed above for another aspect, such as continuing integrity and rationality for consistency. For example, if an immigrant does not find a job because he is not eligible to meet the new national standards and because the host country's unemployment rate is high and because many candidates compete for the same job, he ignores all these facts [abandonment of integrity] and always Denial of understanding as a manifestation of prejudice against the people of their community [abandoning rationality]. Emotionally, it is easier for him to consistently convince himself that the reason is prejudice, rather than dealing with all the complex information that provides a more effective explanation. Simplification usually involves interpreting new cultural information through a person's original cultural worldview, such as talking to older people in a friendly, informal tone, as a shocking expression of disrespect.
Let us see how these concepts relate to K., L., M. Related to the case of N. Each of these people migrated with his family from the traditional society of the rural, pre-industrial area to a large, modern community. city. Their initial pre-immigration culture was the simplest in terms of male and female status. In the original culture, women dominate men. They must obey their father and brother, if married, their husband and their husband. They should dress properly and cover their bodies and heads in public. Unmarried women cannot go out with their companionship. Married women run away from home without their husbands. Physical contact between unmarried women and men is strictly prohibited. Marriage is arranged by parents. Young men and women are not allowed to choose their partner to marry. The school is gender-segregated. Married women are not allowed to work outdoors or drive. Married women should satisfy their husbands. Sexual needs. Refusal is the reason for the divorce, and the divorce was sent back to her parents' home. A divorced woman has a bad reputation. Being forced to have sex with a husband does not constitute a crime.
These rules do not apply to mainstream culture in cities where these men and their families immigrate. The encounter with the new cultural environment led to the loss of simplicity, the loss of integrity and compassion, so these people entered a state of cultural shock.
In this big city, Mr. K has been a potter in his growing village and has to work in a factory. His wife also had to work from home because his salary was not enough to support his family. She found a job in a women's clothing store but had to wear modern clothing. In Mr. K's mind, this situation includes loss of integrity and pride, as the wife who works in her hometown and wears modern clothing is unheard of in his native culture. Only prostitutes violate these rules. Although his rational mind understands why his wife must exist in this way, he is emotionally intolerant. He lost consistency and legitimacy because on the one hand he accepted the need for his wife to work from home, but on the other hand he could not accept it. Then his emotional state led him to prefer to be untrustworthy for consistency. One night, when his wife came back to work in modern clothes, he incredibly felt that he had become a loose woman. Looking at her through his native culture lens, he called her a "prostitute" and beat her.
Mr. L's teenage daughter was influenced by her new cultural environment. She began to rebel against her father, refused to obey him, went out with her friends at night, a mixed company of girls and boys, dressed in modern clothes. Again, for L. this is the loss of comprehensiveness and pride. He had to face the facts about his daughter's new values and behaviors. These new values and behaviors were impossible and had nothing to do with his native culture. When he tried to force her to play according to his native cultural rules, she called him "primitive" and refused to obey him. But at home, she behaves like a traditional daughter who is responsible.
She lost the consistency of traditional culture. But her father also lost consistency. On the one hand, he does not want to be regarded as "primitive" and tries to be tolerant and tolerant of his daughter. On the other hand, he cannot emotionally tolerate her "illegal behavior." So he also gave up his inconsistency and chose to follow his parents' rules of local culture. One night, when she came back at night, he beat her.
Mr. M's wife saw that married women in the new environment did not have to obey their husbands and mothers. They wore fashionable clothes, went to the curriculum, developed their careers, and had no husbands to go out and have male friends. She wants to behave like them like these women. For M. this completely lost simplicity. All these new values and behaviors do not exist in his native culture. He tried to force his wife to act according to his native cultural rules, but did not succeed. He lost his legitimacy because he misunderstood the changes his wife had experienced and deliberately insulted him and castrated him. They have violent behavior. In one of them, he lost control and killed her. Killing a violating wife is tolerated in his native culture.
N. is a young unmarried man. He is dazzled by the sexual freedom of young women in the new environment. This loses simplicity, because this sexual freedom is unheard of in his native culture. He took full advantage of the sexual freedom of the girl he met, but also lost his legitimacy and interpreted his behavior as immoral. He also lost consistency because he understood the concept of mutual consent, but on the other hand he still adhered to the traditional principle that women should obey men and force women to engage in sexual acts without being considered a crime. When the girl he dated refused to have sex with him, his traditional ideas overcame his modern thoughts and raped her. He restored the loss of consistency.
How to prevent this terrible cultural shock symptom? Through culturally responsive home remedies, specially trained therapists help families, especially men, learn how to restore emotional balance in a state of cultural shock and how to bridge the gap between traditional culture and modern culture. This model of treatment can be found in my book "Cultural Capacity Family Therapy".
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