Cultivating and cultivating a good Christian friendship is an important part of the growth of the Catholic spirit. In order to truly and effectively nourish our friendship, we need to be aware of the influence and attitude that may harm our relationship. Many of these devastating effects stem from our temperament.
Your temperament is the basic pattern of your reaction to the world's emotions. It is the most stable and constant part of your personality. But while we can't easily change temperament from one type to another, we can shape them. There are four temperaments. Every temperament has the advantage of your character and relationship. But every temperament also has some traps and dangers.
optimism
Although people with optimistic temperament are often considered to be the most socially motivated, even this temperament can cause problems in relationships. Optimistic people can be social, attractive, and outgoing. They are easy to make friends with. They are often party life, or at least they are considered happy and positive, so they are often liked by people. However, people with optimistic temperament may also have difficulty investing deeply in their friendship. In other words, they may fall into the trap of a quantity that exceeds quality - beyond real friendship. They can also be impulsive, shameless, self-absorbed and forgetful. For those who want to build deeper relationships with them, they sometimes seem indifferent because they have a hard time focusing their attention on this relationship. People with optimistic temperament can also struggle with deep relationships because they are not always good at reflection. They may be very uncomfortable with silence and deliberation, and sometimes they may feel uncomfortable with themselves.
Mucoid
Contrary to optimistic temperament, indifference is usually introspective and reflective. People with apathy are relaxed, quiet and calm. They make few friends, but they are better at building strong and deep relationships. They are also often very loyal. Unfortunately, the negative aspects of indifferent temperament can cause great damage to a relationship. People with toxic poisoning temperament may lack passion and enthusiasm. They may also become ironic, frustrating, and even passive. Because indifferent temperament is low energy, people with this temperament tend to be indifferent and lazy.
irritable
People with timid temperament tend to be energetic but focus on strength. They can be very dedicated and loyal friends, but they are also very practical. They can be good leaders, good planners and organizers, and motivators - making them a good source of support. They tend to prefer facts and emotions, and are indifferent and pragmatic, lacking empathy. They may be impatient and inflexible, and sometimes even rude and unskilled because they focus on efficiency and facts. They will also find it difficult to relax or enjoy. They like to get things done and may emphasize things. They may be busy with relationships.
Melancholy
People with melancholy temperament shared the ideological depth of indifference and the organizational capacity of timid temperament. They are introspective and profound thinkers. They like knowledge and truth. They can also be creative, artistic and excellent problem solvers. However, people with this temperament may also be prone to depression and depression. They can be perfectionists, expecting themselves and their friends too much. They may be hard to please. The biggest weakness of melancholy temperament is that it is vulnerable. Melancholy temperament slowly shifts to emotions, but they also have difficulty getting rid of emotions. It may take a lot to make them angry, but they will be angry for a long time.
make change
Cultivating your relationships usually means making the necessary changes to yourself. For interpersonal relationships, none of the four temperament is better or worse than others. Try to strengthen your temperament and avoid weaknesses. Most importantly, we must remember that our temperament is mainly Emotional reaction. We have the ability to make choices that transcend our temperament in our relationships. A melancholic person may be angry at past injuries. But knowing that this is just an emotion, she can choose to forgive, even though she is still angry. A person with optimism or timidity can train himself to slow down and invest time in his friendship.
Fortunately for us, the love of friendship is the skill we can learn. We can learn about relationship skills, help us to emphasize our temperamental advantages, avoid weaknesses, and make choices that transcend our emotions.
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